How to not be defensive when receiving feedback
One of the earliest lessons we learn when we enter the workforce is that feedback is a critical component of our development. Feedback is a gift that helps us identify our strengths and opportunities to improve. Receiving feedback graciously is an important skill to develop. If we don’t make the experience for the person giving us feedback a pleasant one, they are less likely to give us candid and direct feedback in the future which is only to our own detriment. However, human nature works against us in developing this skill. When we receive constructive feedback, we naturally feel attacked. The pesky amygdala part of our brain takes over and we go into fight-or-flight mode. We’re no longer listening and treat the feedback giver as our adversary. In addition, it’s particularly hard to listen to feedback when we disagree with it. Let’s face it – you’re going to receive feedback that is based on misunderstanding, incomplete or incor...